Ain't No Reason
All the different -ollywoods of the world make life seem appallingly straightforward. A woman locks herself in one single room for eighteen years, away from any hint of human interaction, and then comes out with her sanity as messed up as it was before her exile, no worse. A couple splits apart with a good-natured hug and both of them have moved on within seconds. Time moves with calendar sheets being ripped off one after the other. A sped up stop-motion video of bricks being laid one upon the other to form a magnificent skyscraper means the hero succeeds after all. We have a heroine, in love with a man for years together, heart being broken every time she attempts at expressing it. And the grand climax of the movie? The man apparently did love her back, and was just waiting for the right moment.
Despite all of this, we wait for our ‘Friyays’ to grab a bucket full of popcorn, a packet full of tissues and hit play, sink in a world that makes us believe that good things are on their way. And that’s when the problem begins. We set expectations. In love? Don’t worry, he’ll come to you. Need time to move faster? Tear off calendar sheets really fast. Hotel? Trivago.
All kidding aside, you may have heard this being said a thousand times, but that doesn’t make it any less true – expectations lead to disappointments. A friend of mine taught me this lesson a mere week after we met. Don’t expect anything from anyone. That way, you’re never let down. Because when you’re let down, every calorie your body needs rid of, is directed towards mentally destroying the person who made you feel this way. But you weren’t entitled to anything in the first place.
We were born with nothing. Our parents put the roof over our heads out of their love for us. They fed us because they believed us their gift. If they didn’t quite care, they could’ve abandoned us in a garbage bin (another onscreen cliché). So when we aren’t entitled to a roof, food, or anything we consider our simplest, barest necessities, why would we be entitled to the crush saying yes, or time moving faster, or even sanity?
Such lessons are learnt over time. The time that takes seconds and eons to pass by, not the time that the screen takes to show us that morning’s here. I once had a teacher tell me that no education goes to waste. She didn’t, however, mention that our ‘education’ does in fact, comprise every single experience since birth. We do not know how our life will turn out to be. There may be light at the end of the tunnel, or the tunnel may lead to yet another. But the only thing in our capacity is to keep crawling our way towards what we think is the end. Because no matter what movies tell us, good doesn’t always win, evil doesn’t always lose, and more often than not, there isn’t that much of a difference between the two.
Title Credits: BRETT DENNEN